¿Para quién nacemos y para quién vivimos?

Todos los seres humanos, desde la infancia, necesitamos que nuestros padres nos quieran, nos demuestren afecto y nos acepten tal y como somos.

Y digo “necesitamos” porque de lo contrario no podríamos sobrevivir. Si nuestros padres no nos quieren, no nos cuidarán y si no nos cuidan nuestras necesidades básicas no quedarán cubiertas y estaríamos en riesgo de morir por negligencia.

Pero una vez cubiertas nuestras necesidades básicas, tenemos necesidades emocionales que no siempre son cubiertas de la manera más sana para el individuo.

La necesidad de ser aceptado tal y como uno es es más escaza de lo que creemos. Muchos padres tienen expectativas para sus hijos, sus propias agendas profesionales y personales para la vida de sus hijos sin siquiera preguntarles qué quieren ellos para sí mismos y de la vida.

Así, muchos llevamos esta necesidad de aceptación paternal a nuestra vida adulta sin darnos cuenta de que ya no necesitamos a nuestros padres para sobrevivir.

Y aún si somos conscientes de ello, la cultura o la religión nos impiden enfrentar a nuestros padres y atrevernos a contrariar sus expectativas viviendo a nuestra manera.

Y muchos otros que optan por vivir bajo sus propias reglas terminan cortando o limitando la relación con sus padres, no sin llevar con ellos la tristeza inherente de no ser aceptados por quienes deberían amarlos incondicionalmente.

Es entonces donde tenemos que decirnos lo siguiente:

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Suena fuerte, tal vez, pero es así.

Porque tu vida es sólo tuya y desde el momento en que uno nace es un SER en su totalidad.

Aunque necesitemos comida, vestido y cuidados desde el nacimiento, nuestras necesidades no nos convierten en un ser humano individual y único, sino nuestra propia existencia.

Ninguna persona nace para nadie más que para sí mismo!

Y no nace para nada más que para andar SU PROPIO camino, vivir su vida bajo SUS TÉRMINOS y AMAR su existencia con valentía y éxtasis.

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Beware of your “friends”

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Why are we in social media?

Is it really to be in touch with our friends?

Or to compare others’ lives with ours and see if we are scoring more than them?

Is it because we want to give our time and attention to our friends?

Or because we want their time and attention without giving anything back?

Are we there for the likes?

Are we there to pretend?

To build a persona that is half true?

Why are we in social media in the first place?

Maybe the answer is that because we are addicted to the likes.

And we are more afraid of losing others’ attention because with social media we can pretend we are not alone. That someone cares.

But if everyone is there to seek others’ attention, then by logic no one is there to give you their attention.

They are in for a deal.

Beware what you sign in for.

Do you think you are helping the environment? Think again!

Some people think they are saving the planet by consuming many things but throwing away none.

But while there’s so much they might need, there is no limit to the excuses they give to buy a new version of the same thing they already have.

We can always come up with reasons why we need a new car, a new pair of shoes, a second house or new furniture.

But the underlying cause it’s our status anxiety. Our need to gain other’s respect through, among some other things, the expensive, trendy, new, things we possess.

But we don’t need all these new stuff.

We have to stop pretending that we are doing the planet a favor by not throwing things away or by selling our “old” stuff, while we are consuming like addicts.

We need to go to the psychologist to solve our lack of self-love.

Instead of buying a newer version of whatever the market puts in front of us, we have to ask ourselves a fundamental question:

What am I looking for to gain through buying this new thing? Is it love? Respect? Admiration? And if so, why?

We would be surprised to know that behind most useless consumption there’s a wounded heart trying to cheer itself up, but often unwilling to actually heal.

 

What makes a good life?

For some, life is about accumulating material things and reaching the social status that comes with them. For this people, a good life is about living with comfort and the respect of others, even if it’s fake.

To this people, Buddha would say:

 

The Value of a Person

The value of a person has nothing to do with status, fortune, or occupation. Appraising a person just on the basis of learning or talent invites error. It is rather thoughts and acts giving life to knowledge that are precious. Thoughts and acts are what create the value of a person.

“Who is Dogen Zenji?”

 

For others is about having a family, community or tribe to live for. To them, a good life is a life lived in the company of your loved ones.

For another people, life is about traveling and experiencing other cultures, learning other languages, and understanding how others live, think and survive. These people consider that an adventurous life is a life well lived.

To them, Buddha would say:

Awakening

 

According to Buddha:

Life being active service means being a person with no regrets when life ends.

Based on this, tell me, are you living a good life?